LepusskyWelcome to CHANGE MATTERS Online Counselling Service. Most people find us in their quest to be happier. You may currently be extremely uncomfortable in one or more areas of your life - struggling with depression, anxiety or addiction, conflict at work, or relationship problems. Perhaps you feel a lack of zest or professional fulfilment. You may be battling to get over a past trauma, like sexual abuse or abandonment. You may feel moody, down about yourself, or suicidal.

At CHANGE MATTERS we are specialists in these areas. Our model is unusual, and uniquely effective – yet currently it is offered by only two therapists in Cape Town. So online counselling is our way of coming to you. We have clients all over the world. Online counselling is a private, safe, contained way to get to the bottom of your difficulties and to free yourself. We offer tried and tested tools that we, as therapists, have applied in our own lives, to great effect. Our focus is on being proactive and giving you maximum support, because we know that change is scary and it is hard to know where to begin.

We provide a cost-effective, time-efficient service that galvanises change in your life, because it is the change that matters. Everybody needs help at one point or another. We will assist you on your journey as you reconnect with the glorious person you came here to be. Experience great relief and joy as you begin to live a connected, authentic life with integrity. If we can do it, you can too. It is possible to live a healed life – we’ll show you how.

The reward is life itself - full and serene.

 
Is this counselling?

Yes. We just call ourselves a Consultancy for Personal Change because what we do is more than counselling. Traditional therapies may foster dependence, whereas we see you as your most effective, lifelong change agent. Traditional therapies sometimes keep the counsellor mysterious or “neutral”, which we don’t believe in. We are as real and human as you are. As well as talking, we proactively share tools with you that you then try out. We use symbolic techniques like stories, poems and pictures because they access deeper parts of the brain than the conscious, rational one.

Is it as effective as face-to-face counselling?

With Skype, it is face-to-face counselling! Unless you don’t want it to be. You may prefer just to write to us, or do voice-only Skype sessions.

Why are you called CHANGE MATTERS?

We got tired of kinds of counselling that give you increased insight over years of discussion, without actual change in your life. We found that knowing what is wrong and why is not the same as knowing what to do to make it better. So we are about offering tools and giving you a chance to practice, while we support you.

How quickly can I expect to feel benefits from these sessions?

Our clients find relief immediately. We do ask that you commit to yourself in 24-hour blocks when doing this work (a day at a time). This will mean both setting aside a little time for yourself regularly (say, half an hour) as well as increasing your awareness of how you function and what is going on within you, throughout any given day.

Is it painful and is it hard work?

Most people are afraid of uncovering something terrible about themselves once they start to pay attention to what is hurting. This is an illusion. In fact, the pain of your current defences is far worse than any residual pain you may uncover related to past hurts. You may well enter a grieving process as your awareness grows about what happened to you, and as you start to nurture and care for yourself. But this is a healthy kind of crying that brings relief and brings you back to yourself – and that feels great!

Yes, it is hard work – in the sense that we ask for your commitment to yourself. No one can implement your changes for you (not even us). Also, it is hard work because of the fear. But we will show you how to anchor yourself, and you will be helped. Many others before you have managed what you are about to try – including us.

Many aspects of this work are fun, exciting and even humorous.

What is the fundamental process about?

The buzzwords are:
  • Assisted Self-Discovery
  • Recovery of the Self
  • Healing
  • Connection
The components are:
  • Awareness
  • Ownership/Taking Responsibility
  • Acceptance
  • Action
What can I expect to be doing?

You can expect to lay out what is troubling you, as you see it now. You can expect that we will give you a fresh vision on what is really going on. You can expect to unpack things in a way you may not have before (and you will be given tools, like questionnaires and recommended reading, to help you with this). You will probably be surprised. Then you will be given tools for change to start working on your life. Prepare to be relieved.


What’s all this about rabbits and galaxies on your site?

Aha! This is to suggest to you in subtle ways that transformation is at hand. Lepus (the rabbit) is a trickster-healer: what has been holding you back will set you free. But first you have to plunge down the rabbit-hole of self-discovery. We have our own Agony Auntie called The White Rabbit – ask her an anonymous question if you like.

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You cannot change other people – you only have control over your own choices, thinking and behaviour.


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